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My eyes are swollen this morning. I waited.        My eyes are swollen this morning.
I waited.     
    
I didn't want to post anything too triggering, or react to the difficult emotions that were surfacing.     
    
Should I be sharing?    
Is it relevant for my audience?    
Is it necessary?   
    
So I waited, and I slept on it (as my mentor always gently recommends)     
    
And it's still here.     
This rage and pain and sadness, the fear.    
    
And the hope. The hope also....    
    
My husband (well-intentionally) asked me last night - "why are you watching all the videos, and why are you still reading what everyone is saying "    
    
And my immediate response was YES, because we have to. We must. We must at least bear witness and share. That is the fucking least we can do right now.     
    
And it's always relevant. All the parts of us are relevant. And we can still bear witness and not be fully consumed by it.  
    
The distress of what's happening is taking a toll. A toll on me. And a toll on many people I speak with.     
    
How can we stay curious and reduce the polarization that's happening.     
    
It's akin to what happens in my practice - how do we move forward while staying true to our values and integrating new ways of seeing the world.  And how can we show up with joy and hope while experiencing deep sorrow?    
   
And here we are.  
    
Oh and also! The kids are watching us. Let's behave better for them.     
    
Morning rant over.     
Shabbat shalom.  #shabbatshalom #shabbat #compassion #peaceinthemiddleeast #bearwitness #feminism #jewishlife #rest #loveislove #morelove #mindfulness #therapeuticcoaching
Happy Mother’s Day to me.     I told them I don’t Happy Mother’s Day to me.  
 
I told them I don’t really care for Mother’s Day and that it’s not a big deal ‘cause really, we (they) should be honouring and celebrating mothers all the time. Like every friecken single day!  
  
But I do enjoy their cards, with words of love and gratitude that they scribble early in the morning, and the smoked salmon and bagels, and flowers …. 
 
But truly - I am the lucky one.  
 
What a damn gift it is to mother these babes.  
I heard someone say: “your kids lead you through life…” 
 
That hit hard. They do. 
 
I am learning and growing and adapting and changing and becoming myself by being their mother. Seeing the world through them is a whole other experience that enriches my life like nothing else. 
 
It’s a full-on ride to be a mother, and the best ride of them all. Holding on tight. 

#mothering #mindfulparenting #mother #motherhood #happymothersday
One of the magical things about coaching is that t One of the magical things about coaching is that the transformation that’s created for the client can also happen for the coach.  
 
I notice this in my own takeaways and learnings that surface from working with, and witnessing of, my clients.  
 
This doesn’t always occur automatically of course, but when I stay open to receive, even as the coach and space holder, I can absorb and then integrate some of the transformation that I am witnessing. 
 
What a gift. 🫶
 
It’s akin to being wise; wise enough to be present and non-judging as a listener, but also wise enough to remain open enough to learn.  
 
I wonder if we could all stay a little more open in our relational connections, in and also out of ‘session’…?  
 
 
#transformationalcoaching #wisdompassing #coaching #therapeuticrelationship #change #mindfulness lness
One of my favorite things about my Judaism is Joy. One of my favorite things about my Judaism is Joy.   
  
Mostly just how joy is intricately integrated into so many of the things we do. The practices, the rituals, the values and the beliefs.   
   
Much of practicing and observing Judaism in a secular home revolves around embracing joyful moments and celebrating joyous milestones. We’re good at finding reasons to celebrate. I would go so far as to say - we’re even good at creating ways to experience joy.   
  
Finding the light is part of the religious practice. Maybe this is why my own spirituality is so connected to my religion. Or vice versa..?  
  
Even in the darkest hours and hard moments we will find joy. Like when you’re in the midst of grieving a lost one, even during the shiva where we sit and mourn we will find ways to laugh and rejoice. Judaism encourages us not cancel a planned celebration - in the face of grief and even death. Jewish tradition is to move forward, and continue celebrating and connecting to joy, even in the hardest of times   
  
Some could say this is a distraction from true pain or suffering or grief; but on the contrary, it is part of them; the pain comes with joy, the grief comes with love, the suffering comes with light.   
  
I often apply this same principle with my clients - encouraging and supporting them to implement little moments of joy or lightness amidst some of the darker hardships and low phases.   
  
Cultivating joy is powerful, and natural.   
  
I have been poignantly reminded of this practice lately; as I hesitated to feel joy, and felt guilty for celebrating. But it was stronger than me, this intuitive pull to experience joy.   
  
Happiness is an attitude to life as a whole, while joy lives in the moment.  
- Rabbi Sacks   
 
#mindfulliving #joyisresistance #judaism #jewishjoy
Oh heavy heart! Not sure how many things I can pr Oh heavy heart! 
Not sure how many things I can pray for tonight. 

But there is a lot on the list today…..

I want the hostages home
I want the death toll to stop
I want an end to war 
I want the antisemitism to halt - full stop! 
I want Israel to exist peacefully
I want Palestinians to have a land to live in and govern without terrorists 
I want my kids to feel safe at school 
I want my community and clients to achieve growth and healing at their own pace 

I want to keep lighting candles on this menorah ? ☝🏼Am I allowed to? 
I feel like my Judaism gives me space to practice how I feel is attuned and so maybe I will. 

Spread the light 🕯️
Be the light 🙌🏼

Even if it’s hard. Now is not the time to be quiet or dim unfortunately. 

Shabbat shalom, happy Friday 💔❤️
The front lines of being a Jewish Israeli woman an The front lines of being a Jewish Israeli woman and mother in the diaspora these last few weeks has been rugged.  
 
Too far to have impact, but so impacted.  
So many broken hearts and feelings of helplessness…sensations of fatigue and zombie mode.  
 
I will not lose my compassion, especially for myself.  
 
Hold strong. 🙌🏼 Shabbat Shalom 🕯️ 🕯️

© MORANNE ELARAR 2023

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